Oscar (“Cacho”) Dante
Amsterdam
17 September 1996
Chatting the night away in a cafe in Amsterdam with some friends, I was asked to describe what a milonguero is.
As  it happens, it is something very difficult for me to explain. It’s one  thing to be one — to feel it — and another, very different, is to be  able to express its meaning in words that are clear for others, and give  a real idea of what I think. But I will attempt to do it, trying not to  hurt anybody’s feelings.
A milonguero is a slave of the music,  the tempo, and the space. When he dances, music invades his body and is  translated into his steps and his movements. He never misses a tempo.  Such blending with the music is what produces a sensation that their  bodies are actually speaking (chamuyan).
The milonguero dances  level with the floor, managing space is essential for him, he follows  the “ronda”. His steps, turns, and walks are always aimed forwards, he  never overtakes another couple, he takes care not to cross other  people’s path. He will do his thing (milonguea) in whatever space is  left. He dances for himself and his partner, not for the spectators. He  does not exhibit.
A milonguero stands out by the subtle way in  which he manages space, his sense of rhythm and the intensity — or  lightness — of the feelings he conveys. The pleasure he feels, he  transfers with elegance to the woman’s body. She, in turn, follows him,  generally with eyes closed. She follows like the perfume he is wearing,  she sticks together in this joyful journey. She dances apilada to him —  but not like “cannonball necklace.” Apilarse doesn’t mean hang — this is  not always visible for others, but he can certainly feel it.
A  milonguero is inspired by the orchestra, the piece, or the woman. He  also allows his emotional states to influence the dance. Before  beginning a dance, he will take the woman in his arms, listen to the  music, feel their respiration, their heartbeats, and only then will he  take the first step.
Fortunately, each milonguero dances  distinctively. Their personality, style, and cadence are unique to each  one. There is plenty of variety among them, with a rich diversity of  steps and dance experience. Although they sometimes give in to  admiration, their priority is always the woman and the sentimiento  (feelings — the main motivation for the dance). They are anonymous.  Sometimes timid, and very concentrated. They do not dance much, they are  demanding when choosing the music and the partner. One or two tandas  well danced will make the evening.
A milonguero will dress very  smart, he will be very careful with the shining of his shoes, the crease  of his trousers and [his] perfume. You’ll see them sitting at the table  checking out the floor and the minas ; they only ask for a dance with a  head movement (“de cabeceo”) or an eye movement (“de ojito”).  Meanwhile, there are also the milongueras — many, and very good. They  are ageless. Their posture, the charm of their footstep, and the  subtleties of their movements make for the man’s inspiration, and it’s  them who make the man shine. They are simply chiche bombon!!!
I  believe it makes no sense to claim that someone is number one or the  best, or that one owns a step, or to say that others have stolen  somebody’s step. We’ve all learned from the rest and adapted what we  learned to our personality. And we will continue to learn from each  other in a never-ending process. That is how we enrich our dance, the  tango. The tango, like feelings, doesn’t have and never had an owner.
Dancing  (milonguear) as well as learning to dance, should be a joy, not an  exigency, competition, or hard work; there is enough of that already in  our every day life. Our duty and responsibility as teachers does not  consist in overwhelming our students with our skills and knowledge, but  to be able to communicate these with sentimiento (feelings) and  simplicity. We must therefore avoid mistaking our dancing or performing  abilities with our teaching abilities. It’s essential, not only [to]  count the number of students we have — which is certainly important  financially speaking — but also to make an honest balance and observe  how many of our students are milongueando in the salons. We must be  sincere with ourselves if we wish to see the tango grow.
I wish  to express my humble gratitude for entrusting me, for all the students  in all the places I have visited as a teacher. Also to their teachers  (including all styles and nationalities), for their passion in promoting  Tango, and who have not permitted that I feel alone anywhere I go, even  if I do not speak their language or ignore their customs. The Tango in  all the tango corners of the world I have visited makes me feel at home  wherever I go. Bailando tangos uno nunca esta sólo.
This article  was originally published in “La Cadena”, a tango magazine in Holland;  “El Once” in London and “Tandoneon” in Madrid.
Clint's Notes:
"She dances apilada to him —  but not like “cannonball necklace.” Apilarse doesn’t mean hang — this is  not always visible for others, but he can certainly feel it." I would  love to ask him more about this in person, because I think it is one of the biggest misunderstandings in Tango, especially in close embrace. 
I have asked many top teachers including Osvaldo and Coca about this  and without fail the answer is always this. The man and woman are  leaning in towards one another (not down), sharing contact in their  torsos. BUT they are both responsible for their own balance, you should  not lean so far forward that you compromise your balance. It is just a  matter of moving your weight off of your heel to the forward part of  your foot (metatarsal), don't keep going until you loose balance.
One more comment on this  article, "Fortunately, each milonguero dances distinctively. Their  personality, style, and cadence are unique to each one. There is plenty  of variety among them, with a rich diversity of steps and dance experience."
Ah... interesting. I thought in the other article that milongueros only  danced 5 steps. A "rich diversity of steps" sounds like more than 5 to  me. This is another major misunderstanding. This is my opinion  of what I  think he is saying: Learn the basics first and learn to do the primary  steps of tango (such as ochos, ocho cortado, cruzada, molinete,  arrepentida) very very well and with musicality and on crowded dance  floors. Be able to do those steps with any woman, even beginners. Then  you can branch out, but always be able to simplify your dance down to  those few steps as the need or want arises.